| Planet Bollywood... |
[Jan. 1st, 2008|11:04 am] |
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I may post in here in the future... but for this year, I am living in India and keeping a new blog about my traveling and work experience, which is mylarobin.blogspot.com. Feel free to check it out :) |
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| (no subject) |
[Nov. 3rd, 2006|04:04 am] |
Hmmm... I really do not understand the context of this message. Are there girls who would blame a guy for taking away their shoes while they were puking? a majority of women who prefer assholes over 'nice guys'? Just because many people consider "I'm sorry
that I open your car door, and pull out your chair like I was raised" to be a nice gesture doesn't make it so - it comes out of the notion that women are weak and need men to open their doors for them. I really don't understand what this message is supposed to convey, other than sexist notions and blaming women for not appreciating supposedly nice men... Rather, it clearly conveys sexist essentialist generalizations. So "I'm sorry that I don't repost sexist generalizations and perpetuate male vs. female stereotypes... oh wait, no, I'm not. OK then, I'm sorry for reposting the below message even in the context of ripping it to shreads."
This is to all of the girls in the world who can't accept the nice guys for who they are:
I'm sorry
That I was raised with respect;
not to sleep with you when you were drunk
I'm sorry
That my body's not ripped enough
to "satisfy" your wants
I'm sorry
that I open your car door,
and pull out your chair like I was raised
I'm sorry
That I'm not cute enough
to be "your guy"
I'm sorry
That I am actually nice;
not an asshole
I'm sorry
I don't have a huge bank account
to buy you expensive things
I'm sorry
I like to spend quality nights at home
cuddling with you, instead of at a club
I'm sorry
That I am always the one you need to talk to,
but never good enough to date
I'm sorry
That I always held your hair back when you threw up,and didn't get mad at you for puking in my car,
but when we went out you went home with another guy
I'm sorry
That I am there to pick you up at 4am when your new man hit you and dropped you off in the middle of nowhere,
but not good enough to listen to me when I need a friend
I'm sorry
That I don't understand that he cheats on you but you take him back;
but I'm not good enough to understand that he loves you
I'm sorry
If I start not being there, and being used as a door mat, only to be thrown to the side when the new asshole comes around
I'm sorry
If I don't answer my phone when you call, to listen to you cry for hours, instead of getting a couple hours of sleep before work
I'm sorry that you can't realize.. I've been the one all along.
But hey....now You're sorry
I'm sorry
If you read this and know somebody like this
but don't care
But most of all
I'm sorry
For not being sorry anymore
I'm sorry
That you can't accept me
for who I am
I'm sorry
That you tell me how much better I am
Yet I am not good enough for you
I'm sorry
that im attracted to your personality
instead of your body
Im sorry for taking your
drink away when you were puking on my shoes
and didnt get mad at you
Im sorry
for being there when you wanted to bitch like
hell.
I'm sorry
for allways trying so hard but never knowing what to say.
I'm sorry
your not attracted to me because im not a ass and more concerned about not hurting you than getting in your pants.
Ladies always bitch and bitch to their friends that there is never any good guys out there anymore, and they always end up with assholes who treat them bad. Well ladies next time your bitching, maybe look up to see who your bitching too, maybe that special someone is right there hanging on your every word like usual, screaming in his head "why don't you give me a try?"
Because the person you are usually searching for is right by you.
If you're a guy and you agree with this letter, repost as "I'm sorry" and add a little if I forgot something
If You're one of the few girls with enough balls to repost, and you would never make your guy feel this way, repost as "I appreciate you" |
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| (no subject) |
[Oct. 18th, 2006|01:55 pm] |
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I wish FMLA or Tri Iota had more theory, and more connection of the content to reality. I wish it had more discussion. I wish instead of talking about news articles we talked about what in the hell they mean, what it means that armed men are taking girls hostages in schools and sexually abusing them. What does that say about society? Why is this happening? What does this symbolize in society? About women? About gender relations? About power? What does this tell girls, young and not so young, about our perceived vulnerability? I wish we talked about female role models, and females in Hollywood. When all I can see is the pussycat dolls showing of their dance/sex moves, beyonce showing off her body in slutty dresses her mom picked out for her, Britney romping around ON HER BED as if we had a camera in her bedroom, as if she were pulling a Paris Hilton... it sure makes it difficult to watch Pink's video Stupid Girls and remember that THIS is actually what we should be striving for. "What happened to dreams of a girl president? she's dancing in a video next to 50cent." Why aren't we examining the difference between sexy and slutty? Slutty and sexy are not mutally exclusive, yet commodification of females makes any expression of female beauty into something for the sole purpose of male enjoyment. It's not that you can't be sexy and revealing and slutty and skanky, but the way it is perceived, and in turn the way women cater to this continual male fantasy... it makes it impossible for an equal power relationship between men and women, even when one has the potential to exist...
Name me a public female role model who has some substance, who does not sell herself solely on sex. Name someone who you wouldn't mind your little sister imitation. There are a handful, yet for each one there are a dozen who prove the opposite. Even for those women who supposedly penetrate through the obstacles and get that high powered job or are successful without being a sex object, they are still looked at in terms of which no man will ever be scrutinized. Condeleeza Rice: exclusive look at her exercise routine and how she keeps fit. IS THIS AN IMPORTANT POLITICAL CHARACTERISTIC or was I not paying attention? Have you ever seen something like that for a man? She's not married so they have to show an alternate substance in her life in place of the man that is her natural destiny... Forget that unmarried men in politics are completely fine, the family life of most politicians are unimportant yet somehow we need to hear the details of Rice's work-out routine.. |
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[Oct. 10th, 2006|05:11 am] |
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I think I am much better suited to be a 'b' student. |
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[Oct. 4th, 2006|11:56 pm] |
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Can someone remind me why I went to this school in the first place? |
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[Jul. 27th, 2006|12:15 am] |
Oxford was pretty amazing. I bonded with many people, especially through rowing (particularly the amazing girls in my boat) and Grease (we had about 10 cast parties in 5 weeks).
I can't wait to go back to IWU where I bond with people over hating others. God, I missed you Eric.
True friendship is not about who you like. It's about hating the same people. |
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[Jun. 1st, 2006|03:25 pm] |
I have been feeling pretty weird for the past few days. This has been an amazing year and the it is coming to an end, and I figured I was just sad about that, which I am... The other day I had a relationship opportunity and while it may have been that the guy just wasn't right (despite being amazing, gorgeous, smart, fun, and a great friend) I sort of felt that I just didn't want a boyfriend. That is a very empowering feeling for me... I often feel that I obsess that if only I had a boyfriend my life would be better, I would be happier, everything would be perfect, as stupid as this is it remains a mentality I adopted quite young... I thought I was upset that I am leaving this great year at Oxford in a few weeks, a year in which I have managed to feel so good about myself I might actually not want a boyfriend, began to realize that random hookups just dont do it for me anymore, where I have had academic fulfillment and personal inspiration that I never before imagined, where I have made close friendships from various cultures and internationalities...
I thought I was naturally upset about leaving this, and I am no doubt, but I am writing a paper on women and sports and the more I read the more I am beginning to identify with the viewpoint that sports are empowering. I am realizing that sports have been a key part of my year here as a tool for creating unity among teammates and helping assimilate me into the culture, beginning to feel that I am living inside of my body, my newfound physical strength making me feel stronger as a person, watching my body's ability improve each time I step on an erg or pitch or boat... out competiting Sarah Brierly on ergs repeatedly, watching my physical goals become reality...
I think what is missing from my life is sports. I think I am mourning that I no longer have sports (rowing just ended last week), and that I no longer have a capacity in my life where I can participate in sport. This is what has been slowly getting to me. I have had thoughts of moving to Boston after graduation so I can join a rowing club, or perhaps I could do that this summer somehow... Maybe at IWU next year I can restart the intramural soccer league for women... maybe I could join a mens one (though the teams are usually frats)...
I am quite surprised by the ways I have changed this year. |
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[May. 29th, 2006|02:58 am] |
fem·i·nism Audio pronunciation of "feminism" ( P ) Pronunciation Key (fm-nzm)
n.
1. Belief in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.
2. The movement organized around this belief. |
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| Biggest idiot ever |
[May. 17th, 2006|03:27 pm] |
'You can say what you like but you cannot say that we live in a patriarchal system which is designed to protect and to promote the advantages of men over women. Can you see why that line is insupportable? Are you with me?
'If the point is not self-evident, let me back it into shape.
'We all understand that the system of apartheir in South Africa was devised to sustain and to ensure the political and supremacy of the white minoroty. The denial of political rights to blacks and the other circumscribing conditions in which they lived all added up to a simple division of races in which whites had all power and blacks had none.
'The system could not have been described as a white supremacy, apartheid would have had no meaning, if blacks had been able to exercise rights and powers which were denied to whites. If, for instance, blacks had been allowed to vote while whites were denied that right, the very idea of a white supremicist society would have been preposterous.
'The same logic, applied to the facts I have advanced, explodes the feminist myth of male supremacist patriarchy in Western societies. If any disadvantages apply to all men, if any individual man is denied a right by reason of his gender which is afforded to every individual woman, then it must follow that ours is not a society which is exclusively devised to advance and protest advantages for men over women.
'It is not a patriarchy.'
-Neil Lyndon, 'No More Sex War', arguing that men's lack of legal and personal rights in abortion decisions mean that Western society is decidedly not patriarchal |
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[May. 16th, 2006|07:37 pm] |
I've been feeling great all day. I think that today really reflects my overall mood of Oxford life in general.
Today I:
got up at 6:15 and went rowing
had breakfast with Emily, Laura and Alan
pissed about on Facebook
saw David Ableman on the street - yay!
went to SSL and found some books on feminist social action
went to Iffley and played two games of 5-a-side football (we won our division! finals are next week vs. the other finalists)
went back to SSl and read for a few hours
came home
Tonight, I am going to
shower
get dressed up (dresscode: MissFit)
go to Zizzi's with my crew (the MissFits)
meet David Thomas and hopefully Grace (my former castmembers from Grease) at Oriel for LGB drinks (I imagine Milos will be on bar hooking me up with free drinks)
probably go to Poptarts for a night of dancing
I am trying not to think about leaving this place - I am pretty fucking happy. That day isn't even that interesting - it's just my life here feels so productive and fun. What happened to cynical Myla? |
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[May. 14th, 2006|11:04 am] |
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| | There are Worse Things I Could Do | ] |
I did not expect last night to go down as it did.
Grease was awesome! bedford regatta was cool and we won a race against Warwick Univ. We beat a whole university! Last night was the Grease cast party and it was great fun, especially our drunk rendition of We Go Together, Gease Lightening, and Summer Nights in the variety show as well as dancing to the brass band 50's swing music in the Marquee. The rest of the night... we will see how things turns out. |
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| Facebook group at Oxford |
[May. 12th, 2006|10:51 am] |
"Wearing Suits and Gowns To Exams Is Not as Silly as Some People Make Out"
Oxford
Information
Group InfoName:
Wearing Suits and Gowns To Exams Is Not as Silly as Some People Make Out
Type:
Common Interest - Beliefs & Causes
Description:
In response to the "Wearing Suits and Gowns To Exams Is Really Very Silly" group, here is the other side of the proverbial coin.
We may be hot, we may look silly, we may be the subject of unwanted Japanese and American attention, but this is Oxford, and we're proud of it! |
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| I love England |
[May. 11th, 2006|11:55 am] |
BROKEBACK BOP!!!
FREE ENTRY!!!
Green COLLEGE Bar
Friday 12 May
8pm-1am
That's right, you Greenhorns, it's a round-up! A hold-up! A broke-
back mountin'!
This year, the wild west got even WILDER!
In honour of this year's crooked cowboy movie, Green College is
hosting a WILD, WILD WEST Bop! Coupled cowboys, kissing cowgirls - HOT-AS-HELL
HOEDOWN!
Bring your WILD costume ideas (or just a regular hat n' boots, if
you're that kinda cowpoke) for a deep drinkin', high steppin', fun-
filled fandango!!!
FREE ENTRY!!! CHEAP DRINKS!!!
See ya there, Buckaroos! |
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